Short Time, Huge Impact (XII)

April 27, 2010

This is the last in a series of personal examples of how the most important transitions in life often happen suddenly and quickly.  This one was a crucial part of the happiest aspect of my present life.

After the painful divorce I’ve mentioned in recent articles, I began to date a woman I met through eHarmony.com.  I was talked into trying that site by a friend who had met his wife, a wonderful Christian lady, that way.

The woman in question—now my wife—was the very first picture I saw upon entering the site.  Interestingly, she’d chosen to try eHarmony.com because her brother had met his girlfriend—now his wife—on that site.  The difference was she was about to give up on the idea of meeting anyone online.  So, I was virtually her last “match.”

But, that’s not what I wanted to emphasize here.  After dating nearly four years, she made a mistake and I got angry and didn’t forgive her—or even face that I was really that angry.  Ephesians 4:26-27 says that such lingering anger is a very dangerous thing spiritually and I made a far bigger mistake than she did.

In January, 2009, I flew to Mississippi to visit family and friends there.  While there, a close friend and my brother let me have it: “What’s wrong with you?!  Why haven’t you married that woman?”

Then, on the plane coming back, I was praying, when, for one of the very few times in my long Christian life, I heard God’s voice in my head: “Why haven’t you forgiven Cindy?”

After my best friend from college, my brother and the Lord ganged up on me, I forgave Cindy.  We were married July 4, 2009.  It happened quickly… after dating almost five years, in God’s perfect timing.

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